Things to ponder

If a man wants you, nothing will keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing will make him stay. Stop making excuses for him and his behavior. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Moving slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then hell no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things haven't gotten better. The only person you can control in a relationship is yourself. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how he treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let him know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change his behavior. Change comes from within. Don't *ever* make yourself feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or has a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more and nothing less. Never let him define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, *he will cheat on you*. He will only treat you the way you *allow* him to treat you. All men are *not* jerks. You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is a two way street. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues. You should never look for someone to *complete* you. A relationship consists of two *whole* individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary. Relationships can be fun, even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes. When he always knows where you are, and you are always readily available to him, he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.


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I got this as a forward from a friend who had been single for ten years, and is now happy in a relationship. It gave me food for thought.