Cravings, Desires, Fascination

You're always going to want what you don't have, right? And what do you crave? Well, it's kind of a self-fulfilling problem...a craving is something that as soon as you get, you won't want anymore. Because that's what a craving *is*. Something you don't have, something you want...something you desire desperately with your entire being until you have it. And then you move on to the next thing that you crave, because that's just how people are.

And that's kind of depressing to think about, because it would be so much more enjoyable for life, if you could go through it not craving things, but by choosing what you were fascinated by, and enjoying them. To look at things, and instead of craving them, to just become enraptured by them, and to love them, and focus on each part of the thing or person that you find interesting for their own merits.

If we stopped to smell the roses, so to speak, and really look at what we had around us, instead of just craving momentarily what we wanted, we would appreciated things and people more, instead of getting bored with everything about our lives, all the time.

Our disposable society that we've created, and the broken homes that are resulting from it is very sad, and I'm glad I had to stop, and consciously look around myself to see what I have, what I see, instead of just what I momentarily want...what I craved.

Evidently, I might be somewhat tacky, who knew?

As it turns out, I was actually talking about gift registries, or when it's appropriate to use them. Did you know that there are actually occasions that you'd be looked down on for registering for gifts? I'm pretty sure everyone knows the standard ones, sprogging, weddings, a new home.

But think about it: these days, most couples live together for quite a while before they get married. Just how many multiple toasters does a couple *really* need? Same deal for a new home. Most people who are moving into a new house pretty much have the majority of the things that they're going to need, and even if they don't, they're not going to have their friends ponying up for the new refrigerator that they're going to need. They're going to get a really nice bottle of wine, or some dishes, maybe. Which they probably already had, or possibly if they're combining a household, they've now got *three* of.

No, what people actually need, are gift registries for the newly divorced, who's moving into his/her new place, and now doesn't have any pots, pans, forks, knives, nothing of the basics. Much less any towels or anything else if it was really bad. *This* would be a much more practical housewarming party for a gift registry request, because honey, these people actually *need* some of those presents.

But nobody can ask for them. Because it'd be a social gaffe, and they're labeled as being grabby, and tacky for asking for presents. Now a new mother is inundated with gifts, and so will a bride...but a divorcee, who might actually *need* a toaster? She's shit out of luck, nor can she post a registry in her housewarming invite.

You know what? I say to hell with that. If you can beg for money and presents because you can shoot a fuck trophy out, to get presents, and you can add a line in your invitation for people to show up and watch you saunter down a rose petaled aisle, whilst begging for money and presents...why shouldn't a line be added asking for actual useful things if you've ended up having to rebuild your life after a shitty divorce? Or if you never got married, but you're out on your own, and moving into a new place, and don't have anything but hand-me-down stuff? Why the hell not? You deserve to celebrate being an adult, even if you need to ask to help acquire all the cool grown-up toys. Some of that stuff costs money :P

Just sayin'